About the question...
..."how are you doing?"
These are my thoughts. I never realized how angry I am about the question.
But I am. This is why.
If a stranger asks, they really don't care - it's just a greeting. It
means nothing. If you say "fine" they don't hear it, if you tell
them the truth, they think you are pyscho.
If an acquaintance asks, they may care some, but you have to lie any way
so it doesn't really matter. If you tell them the truth they really don't
have time to hear your problems because they don't know you all that well
and don't understand anyway.
If a friend asks, they care. They want the truth. But it hurts to tell the
truth sometimes, and it hurts to lie. That know anyway. It seems polite to
ask, but they know how you are by what you tell them your day was like or
whatever.
If someone intimate asks, they really do care. But you don't want to scare
them or run them off with your problems so you usually lie.
If your counselor or T asks, you want to slap them. "You idiot, what
do you think!"
So I am boycotting the question forever. If I don't ask you how you are
don't think I am impolite and insensitive, I just hate it. Recently I
tired to tell someone I am doing great, really. And to them it means I am
in denial or deceived. That really sucks. So why do I try???
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